"As leaders we don't need to choose between power or love, we do both. We make connections and get things done", says Adam Kahane of REOS Partners. A leader makes a love move to foster mutual connection and awareness. Then power moves to make special interests discussable rather than pretend they don’t exist. Recognize the places where you are stuck in one dynamic or the other. Attention to love opens up an opportunity to find an underlying unity that will sustain in the long run.